Question for Women Only Please: How do I prove to my ex that my feelings are true, and I do want her back.?

About a month ago I was going through a really hard time in my life and in turn I was being a jerk to her. I knew it wasn't fair for me to treat her like this, so I talked to her and told her that I need time to get my head straight and it's not fair to ask her to wait for me.





After two weeks apart and a lot of thinking I realized that I want her and her daughter (21 months) to be a part of my life. I didn't tell her though because I wanted to make sure I was 100% sure before saying anything.





Last week she told me that she had been talking to somebody (a friend of hers set them up) over the phone and had a date with him. Even though I know it's bad timing, I told her what my feelings were. Now she thinks I want to get back together with her because she and her friends just think I'm jealous. Which honestly I would think so to if I was in her position, but that's honestly not the case. I've felt this way for almost two weeks before I knew about this other guy.





The night that I talked to her about it she said that it did seem weird and that it was a lot to think about and that she is confused. She said she still loves me, that I'm a great man, that I'm great with her daughter, and that she knows I love her daughter and her daughter loves me, but she doesn't want to get hurt again, and is afraid that things will go back to the way they were.





We've been hanging out for the last couple of days/nights and it's been good so far, we've had smiles and laughs. She's commented that ';this is good, but she wonders if it would stay this way';.





On the other hand, she said that she likes this other guy and wants to get to know him more, and that I made the decision to break up and that she won't just come running right back to me. I don't expect her to, and I understand that I need to prove myself to her.





The guy she is talking to lives about 2 hours away and they are going on their second date tonight. I told her I wasn't going to call her today and we agreed on friday that we would just talk on sunday. Well, she called me today and we hung out for a little while, she called again a couple of hours after I left, we talked for a little while. I left it at ';Call me tomorrow';.





In all honesty I really want her and her daughter back into my life, and no not because she is talking to someone else. We've talked in the past about marriage and about having children. I've told her that ';I want them back into my life and that I had realized my character defects and I am working to fix them, and that I understand that I'm going to have to prove myself to her and I am absolutely willing to do that'; I've tried not to sound pathetic, but honestly I kind of am.





I would like some advice on what I should do. I really want her back into my life. I realize that she is the one for me. Any advice you have on how/what I should do to get her back. Thanks.Question for Women Only Please: How do I prove to my ex that my feelings are true, and I do want her back.?
tell her to take her time deciding whether she should get back with you or not


tell her you had your time to think so she should do the same


this is a big thing


tell her how you really feel


talk to her


smooth things out


make her trust you again


make her trust that you won't be leaving her again


spend some time with her kid


that is probably the most important thing in her life


she would like for someone to love her child the way she does, and she would want them to get along


stay close to her, but don't push her into liking you


she will feel pressured and be sure that you are not the one for her


take it slow


she will be thinking about this for a long time





she probably still has feelings for you


her friend probably set them up together to help her friend get over you


don't be mad at her either


she was only trying to make her feel better


Question for Women Only Please: How do I prove to my ex that my feelings are true, and I do want her back.?
...propose
PROPOSE. DO IT!!! NO OTHER WAY!
Buy her a ring. I guess.
My advice to you is that you need to explain yourself to her and explain that you feel the break up was a mistake. Show her that you are true, and by this I mean don't give up at least not yet. If you feel its a battle you cannot win just leave it at that. Sometimes it takes longer than a month.





Yet I'm not to sure on how you feel. I have been through similar situations. I had an ex about two years ago and we bascially broke up because we did not get along. He told me that he was not coming back and that he didn't like me like before. Little did i know he came running back to me a year later.





Another situation i have been through was about a year ago also. I had this boyfriend and he was the first boyfriend who really had true emotions to me and I knew it was love. We dated/talked for about a year. One day he decides to tell me he lost his love for me and wanted to break up, but i knew that was not that real reason. He even got a girlfriend an hour after we broke. He always told me we would never be a thing again, but when i'm around him. I can tell he still cares, but maybe he just doesn't want too..





And if its only been a month man, I believe she probably still has feelings. If she didn't i doubt you two would be calling each other or even hanging out!





Things will not always be as we want them too. Especially with relationships and it can kill us. I can tell your a great man and I hope that everything goes good again.





I wish you luck!
You said that you ';ARE working to fix [your character defects]';. That sounds very different from ';you HAVE fixed '; your character flaws.


You havent changed. You are trying to change.





I think you should fix whatever issues you have and then find a new girlfriend. You ruined this relationship.





If she wanted you back, she'd be back already. She obviously has other designs and plans. You need to find a new girlfriend and then not repeat the mistakes you made with the last one.



In my opinion you have done everything you can for right now....Keep in contact with her...It sounds like she wants you back but it just holding off for now as a lesson.
Let her know that you're there for her and that you are the best guy out there for her and especially her daughter.


Trust me, a woman with a 21 month old kid is more concerned about the kid than herself.


Please take 5 seconds to answer mine..


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ok you will have to be patient on this if you really do love her and want her back tell her to go on her dates and get to now the guy better. i will be here waiting. until you make it official, and tell me that you want to be with him, i will be here for you, and you alone. and then you wait. see how it plays out. sit back in the stands and give this guy a try. if really does love you she will see. and if she does chose him still be there. be a friend to her and her daughter. 9 out of 10 says shell come back to you.





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You admitted you were a jerk to her because you had 'problems' in your life...Well guess what? We ALL have problems and it doesn't excuse you being mean and breaking up with someone! If I were her I would not trust you either. Couples should stick together during hard times. Since you ran off like a coward and needed time to 'think' or whatever, she has moved on!





I think you need to take a step back here. If she was so great and you want her so much, why did you break up with her to begin with? And yes, you sound pathetic. She needed you to work on your 'character faults' like WHEN YOU GUYS WERE TOGETHER! Not after you hurt and dumped her.





As far as advice goes...move on! Let her be happy in her life. Stop being a selfish jerk. Maybe she has a chance with the other guy. Maybe HE can give her the stabilty you can't. Maybe he won't go running off and dumping her everytime he has some problems and has to think! Maybe this guy WANTS her in spite of whatever personal problems he has and maybe he doesn't need time to 'think' about wether he wants her or not!





You got what you deserved. Just back off. If you are so great together, she will see this and come back. If not, she will probably end up a happier person. If you really love her, let HER decide what is best for her and her child.





If I were her I would simply move on. You had your chance and you blew it. You said a lot about how much you wanted her back but NOTHING about feeling bad for how much you hurt her! You don't even sound very sorry about what you have done to be honest. So the next time you go to say ';I WANT I WANT I WANT!'; why don't you consider what SHE wants? There was not one thing in your post talking about her pain with all of this!





You must have a really high opinion of yourself! You think you are some 'great catch' that hurts someone, then deserves to be taken back and forgiven just because you claim to see the error in your ways? Just what makes you worthy of her? You hurt her, probably make a mess of her life then DECIDE you want her back in it? Um...no buddy...Why should she? what great things do you have to offer HER if she comes back? Probably nothing, seeing the error of your ways doesn't mean you'll change!





You probably won't like my answer but it's an honest female one. If a guy did this to ME, especially if I had a 21 month old kid who needed a father, I WOULD NOT take his @ss back! She has enough to worry about with a child. She doesn't need some flaky guy who can't make up his mind! She needs a STRONG man who will stick by her through hard times and help her raise her child in a stable home.





From the way it sounds dude, you just don't measure up! Good luck to her. May you learn a good lesson from this: Be sure it's OVER before you dump someone! Don't get rid of them unless you are sure it's a forever thing! I hope this helps shed some light on things...You messed up and if she is a smart woman with self respect she will move on....you should too!
You shouild just keep doing what you're doing. You're obviously trying to be better for her and her daughter. Let her know how you feel and continue to prove that you really want to be with her and she's the one for you. If she's smart she'll make the choice to be you.